Forgive my absence in the blog world for the past few days.. i was busy with random nothingness and studies, and let me assure you all.. my ”Arranged marriage” had absolutely nothing to do with my long absence
so where was i ? … oh yes, we had the story till the bride to be and the groom to be met and the wedding date was fixed. so let the story proceed… ( i might take the liberty to add some quirky music in the background… 🙂 )
So the marriage is fixed.. there is happiness all around.. Except in the bride’s and the groom’s face.. these poor souls don’t even realise what’s going on around them any longer…They will look as if a thunderstorm has suddenly struck them. All things happen at a faster pace now ..there is a gathering of older women in a corner with colorful sarees and weired expressions and men in another corner with even stranger vibes..in the remaining space of the house children are playing around ..oblivious to the situation. All In all the house and the environment is charged with energy, vibrancy and urgency.
I don’t know about other arranged marriage situations but according to the nepalese tradition once the decision of marriage is made.. there is a ceremony called swayambar..(engagement ceremony.. in plain english) where the bride and groom exchange rings and basically fix the date of the marriage. What follows next .. is a lot of shopping.. a lot of cooking, and a lot of gathering of people and the bride and groom…? lost somewhere in between … in their own world of unknown ..unseen ..unimagined ..future dreams of so called ” marriage”. I won’t go into details of the traditional decorations..emotional details.. and the food around the marriage. Then finally ” the marriage “….. I will mainly concentrate on the emotional aspects of these two souls after the ” marriage” and the complexities of the unknown that arises then after. The complexities of being married not only to a person but to a whole family . 🙂